I used to think there were topics I would just NEVER be able to write about. Some because I had no experience and didn’t feel like I knew what I was talking about even after doing research.
So writing BDSM? No. Oh nononono. I couldn’t possibly go there because I’d look stupid as soon as someone who did know what they were doing there read my story. Surely, even with reading blogs and books from both points-of-view (D and s), I’d hork something up and get laughed at.
Then one of the “voices” in my head turned out to be a Dom. I had to then write a short story about a D/s relationship that was slowly falling apart after a hate crime made this Dom question whether he could or even should play with his boy again. Love him? Yes, he’d always love him, but he couldn’t ever hurt him, cause him pain, after the hell he’d been through. Could he?
No one was ever supposed to see Jenner’s Needs, so the pressure was off, but I realized that all I needed to get over the “no I can’t do it” hurdle was find something that turned me on about the situation and run with that. The turn-on was trust: Viktor had to trust in his skills as Jenner’s Dom and believe Jenner’s trust in him wasn’t misplaced. Did I get everything right with the BDSM scene I wrote? Dunno. Maybe I did. I think I got the trust between Viktor and Jenner right, though, and I’m OK with that.
Now cheating? Open relationships? So very not going there because I cannot understand taking him back or sharing him.
Missy Welsh writes gay, bi, and trans erotic m/m romance short stories, novellas, and novels.